Mind vs Heart

Emotions tear us apart…Thoughts stitch together all those torn pieces; is it this way or the other way round?? Control your feelings or control your thoughts!!! Is there an answer to these questions, is the answer universal or is it subjective?? According to me, each individual has his own priorities and a point of view.

Many of us would like to do everything based on instincts, without planning anything. For them, planning and thinking just squeezes out the fun from their lives, split second decisions make life adventurous and more enjoyable. For others (including me), life is not that easy and it’s not a game without any odds. Everything need to be well structured, each decision should have a logical reason behind it (in that sense, even writing a blog).

For some, it’s a tough battle between the two forces and if this battle continues for long, it drains the soul out of the person and makes him feel the worst, as if a ‘Dementor’ is sucking his soul. Rarely do we find Heart and Mind work together, blend together to provide their master- the extreme happiness.

I feel that others may also be faced with these questions, but I am damn sure that a duel between ‘my’ ‘heart’ and ‘mind’ goes on each and everyday, may be for less time but I can never overlook or ignore the existence of this duel. As far as I am concerned, I go for my mind’s decision which seems to me more rational and beneficial. It seems to me that those who take decisions based on instincts lack the power of thinking rationally or don’t understand the pros and cons of an issue. Rather, when they say that taking decisions based on instincts has proved better in their past, than the other way; I see no reason to it. A thought instantly pops up, “note it’s a thought and not a feeling”, ‘how can one just forget the basis of this “modern world”, the basic principle that distinguishes us from 'the medieval - the Dark Ages', the principle of Renaissance - to ask questions, to be inquisitive, to be rational.’ Do those “hearty” people mean that we have developed and evolved because we know what our heart says, while our ancestors in medieval ages never knew that a thing like heart ever existed.

I would like to ponder upon some of the daily life issues, that I have noticed. For example, have you ever seen a person meditating, and asked him its benefit. According to me, a person who sits in silence and concentrate to just improve his mind power, does do justice to the art. But, I want to bring those to the fore who meditate for the purpose of ’salvation’ as they say, to make their souls pure. They say, “meditating means focusing on a thought or ‘nil’(nothing) OR even ‘Totally empty your mind’. Concentration would develop your soul, make your ‘heart’ light and remove the burden on it. It will make your heart ‘pure’.” I don’t understand, how a mind exercise would help heart when both are seperate entities, or even if not, then it’s always asked to control one’s mind; because, that can be done. They ask to listen to the heart, I ask “What can one otherwise do, when one just drains his mind out of all thoughts”. Is there an alternative?? Why one need to listen to heart, when one can’t control it?? Why not leave everything to our mind and let it take decisions, when it is at the helm of our heart basically. However, heart is a ‘beast’ which is uncontrollable, and does what it likes, not what ‘you’ like. There is a difference between ‘it’ and ‘you’, which may be too difficult to see but too dangerous to ignore.

This post may just keep on continuing, endless matter I would like to share -

Why do break-ups ever happen?? How are relationships formed?? When two entities decide to go together, walk together; is that a decision of their instincts or is there a mind working to bring together two lonely hearts. To me, both the forces work in quick succession. Firstly, to fall for someone is instantaneous which is completely based on heart’s liking for the one. As soon as this happens, the mind starts working to get the two together, which is a long, cumbersome and gradual process.

On the other hand, if we look at the break-ups, it’s the other way round. There is a slurry of thoughts filling in both the minds. The thoughts are churned for a long time, a lot of heat is generated, emotions also sometimes come in between. The things that one won’t have ever thought about his/her partner or would have ever paid heed to, just come rushing in. The thoughts just flood the mind, which lose control of everything and thus, the heart that has been shielded by the mind till now, is bared. “Heart”, then just results in an instantaneous response, which you all may have understood. As soon as heart comes in the open, the break-up occurs.

Thus, ‘Heart’ produces a reaction that may or may not be correct, and the “Mind” need to take up the responsibility, suffer, and work for the decision that has been taken by the “Heart”.

Finally ending it, my mind is tired!!!

I feel that it’s better to listen to “Mind”, and that’s not easy as may seem to be as it need control over one’s instincts. This is the point of view of a “Mind”-supporter, I would wish to have someone from the other side to put his/her views, thoughts…oops, I am sorry…his/her ‘feelings’ and ‘emotions’!!!